One day Cinderella’s step-mom came up with a plan on how she would get into the Royal circle. The King and Queen were having a Royal Ball and she would take her daughters to the Ball in hopes that the Prince would fall in love with one of them. Cinderella also wanted to go to the ball but she was ultimately shut out by her step-mom and stepsisters. Her step-mom must have been a daddyless daughter too; or just a hater. On the night of the ball, Cinderella got a visit from her magical fairy Godmother. She helped her spruce up her outside image, which in turn made her the Belle of the Ball. Can you image the confidence you would have in seeing yourself in that light? One in which all eyes are going to be on you. It gave her a feeling of inner confidence for once in her life. As a quick side note, we all know that fixing the outside without doing the work on the inside is just a temporary fix. So when Cinderella stepped into the ball all eyes were on her-just as she expected. She feltspecial and beautiful because she was the center of attention. Of course, her fairy godmother was a professional. Now when Prince Charming and Cinderella locked eyes for the first time it was magical. According to Dr. Garbiella Kortsch “optimally, a little girl needs to see herself reflected in the love she sees for herself in her father's eyes. This is how she develops self-confidence and self-esteem.” Ladies, imagine the feeling you would get when you are the one that Prince Charming has chosen to be his very own. Think about it- out of all the women at the ball, he chose you. In that instant, she became transformed back to being that little girl again, the little girl who dreamed about her Prince Charming coming to save her from all those dreaded “un” feelings that Iyanla Vanzant expressed. They include those feelings of being unworthy, unloved, unlovable, unimportant, unattractive, unwanted, and unacceptable. Now as I told you before, this fairytale is ultimately the tale of a daddyless daughter. So, in essence, who does Prince Charming symbolize really? Prince Charming for us daddyless daughters is and will always be our daddies. As the fairytale goes, the clock strikes midnight and Cinderella races out of the castle. As she exits, little by little, she starts to turn back to the person she once used to be. She understood the importance of a speedy exit because she ultimately did not want the Prince to see the real HER. In her haste, she lost her precious glass slipper.
We all know that since this is a fairytale, it can’t actually end at this point right? So as the fairytale goes, Prince Charming eventually finds Cinderella the slipper fits and they live Happily Ever After. But for most of us daddylessdaughters, we never usually get past the point of losing our slipper in our everyday lives. It seems as if once the slipper is lost, so are we. The loss of the temporary fix knocked us so off balance that we couldn’t recover. It is in our fathers that we learn to develop our self-image. With that said, what our wonderful fairy Godmother did was to open our eyes for a brief moment. She gave us a preview of the beauty, confidence, and power that was buried deep within.
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