Cinderella The Daddyless Daughter Part 3

As daddyless daughters we need to start asking ourselves “Why does our fairytale seem to end with the loss of the slipper?  But Cinderella too is a daddyless daughter and the fairytale doesn’t end there for her.  Think just as the fairytale of Cinderella had an author who wrote its happy ending, us Daddyless Daughters have to realize that we in fact are the authors of our own stories.  It is in being aware of this we conjure up the power as well to write our own “happily ever after”.  So how do we get past the slipper snafu in order to find the courage to write our happily ever after?  Simply put, we must find completion within ourselves.  As Iyanla so eloquently pointed out in Oprah’s Daddyless Daughters Life Class we must first and foremost admit to ourselves that “Daddy’s gone”!  We must understand that we will never ever get the opportunity to turn back the hands of time.  This step is a crucial part of our journey.  We have to really dig deep and allow ourselves to feel the pain and let go of the stories we have made up about Prince Charming better known as our fathers.  We have to understand that just because he couldn’t show up for us for some reason or another that does not give us the right to not show up for ourselves.  Our happiness and sanity depend on it.  The time has come for us to re-dedicate ourselves to ourselves.  This is where the real work begins.  We have to grow up! Part of growing up is learning to love and accept ourselves for who we are.  Learn to realize and appreciate the beautiful creation that your father never got the chance to get to know or see grow.  We must also never forget that we are beautiful.  We are love and we are loveable.  We are truly wanted and important.  We have purpose and are worthy of all the great things this life has to offer us you have to thank your dad for showing up to give YOU life.  And you ultimately have to learn to forgive him for absence and the ensuing mess it has caused.  Remind yourself that based on him not showing up, it is his loss- but the world’s gain.

Hopefully, this blog can serve as your fairy godmother helping you on the path to start healing some of the internal turmoil caused by your “Daddyless Daughterness”.  Yes, I made this term up.  Healing yourself from the inside out puts you on the path to inner fulfillment and completion. This completion will make your Prince Charming- whenever he does appear, be a compliment to your life since you were essentially complete before he got there.  So for the Daddyless Daughters worldwide-our fairytale doesn’t have to end when we lose the slipper.  For it is in that moment we now come to realize that we didn’t need the slippers in the first place.